Mi Casa, Su Casa | Chomp | Testosterone Tasks | Vim & Vigor | Gear | Refer-A-Friend
Check out the new book! | Porch Talk | Cash Money | Emil Post | Show Off

more emil post
» Please Help Me
» Seder Behavior
» The Buzz
» Politically Polite
» Thanks For Anything

» emil post archives

Répondez S'il Vous Plait
by Candice Benson

Intro | What It Means | Variations

What the heck does it mean?
R.S.V.P. stands for “répondez s'il vous plaît,” French for “please reply”. These abbreviations are placed on invitations for a specific reason: to let you know that the host would like to know if you will be attending or not.

In proper etiquette, a written invitation should require a written acceptance/regret, but with the change of the times, it has transformed to mean anything from a phone call to an email. As long as you reply in some way, shape, or form, the host will be happy.

What happens if I don’t reply?
As given in the previous example, your failure to reply can result in the decision of having enough room for just those who replied or going ahead and making room for everyone who has and hasn’t replied and chancing it.

If the host/hostess is really concrete on knowing how many are attending, they may go as far as making phone calls to find out. If you fail to respond, you may receive a phone call, but be prepared to give an answer. If you aren’t sure if you will be able to attend, explain the situation and say “maybe”. In this case, the host can plan for you, but it isn’t a hassle if you don’t show.


next >

tell it to the 'tat

Have you got an etiquette issue? Need tips on social affairs? Ask Emil! This perfect guy can't answer every question, but maybe he'll choose yours. Let the cohabitation begin.